Anger, and when it is an issue
We have all experienced anger at some point or another in our daily lives. Experiencing the emotion of anger is a natural, valid, necessary and appropriate. Anger is a basic emotion that could either be triggered by external or internal events. If we retrospect, one or more of the following would have elicited an anger response within us:
Experiencing anger alerts us to an imminent threats like trespassing, injustice, disrespect or pending physical or emotional harm. Though experiencing anger is a natural adaptation to an unfavourable event or situation it can become an issue when:
Expressing one’s anger excessively as fury or rage, can put one at risk for heart-related problems and hypertension. Anger when experienced or expressed too intensely and frequently causes a physical stress on our body and mind.
Inappropriate expression of anger either verbally or physically can make one come across as being aggressive, hostile and even abusive. This could put other people on the defensive and can sabotage personal and professional relationships.
Anger when built-up or suppressed can also cause a stress reaction in our mind and bodies. Childhood experiences that caused anger or rage might have been suppressed due to inability to express at the time. Pent-up anger makes us constantly think of the person or event and leads to either suddenly express anger or turn the anger inward. Long term supression can also lead to mental health issues. When not regulated or channelized one could also displace anger onto the wrong person or situation instead of the actual source. This often leads to misunderstandings and interpersonal conflicts.
Fixing anger issues
Anger issues arise when one is having difficulty in regulating the emotion of anger. While it’s natural to experience anger; it’s helpful if we can regulate and express it in an effective manner without causing harm to either oneself or others.
The following could help in regulating and expressing anger
Controlling anger before it controls you: http://www.apa.org/topics/anger/control.aspx
Anger Management: http://www.helpguide.org/articles/emotional-health/anger-management.htm